On the threshold of a new year, it’s very easy to proclaim that this year will be different. ‘New year, new me’ as they say. But change doesn’t happen overnight, you have to build new habits and work hard to achieve your goals, and many resolution-setters only focus on the end goal, and not what it’ll take to get there – and then give up by mid-January.
That’s why I’m done making New Year’s resolutions. I like to set intentions and visualise what I would like the new year to look like, sure, but by making big claims like ‘I’m going to write my book this year!’ or ‘I’m going to get my dream job this year!’ without the work to back them up, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment.
I prefer to spend NYE reflecting on what I have learned and experienced over the year, and how that can help me grow in the year to come. 2018 has been one crazy year for me, with dizzying highs and crushing lows, but overall I think it has been one of the best years of my life.
This was the year that I took control of my own happiness in so many different aspects of my life. Going part-time was definitely the biggest, wildest decision I made this year and I still stand by it 100%.
This was also the year that I found the confidence to go to things on my own – films, restaurants, museums, etc. But the biggest one this year was definitely YALC. I’d never been to a convention by myself before, and it was actually really nice to go at my own pace and do whatever activities I wanted to do. Sometimes the only company you need is your own!
This was the year I decided to focus on my writing, whether that’s my book, poetry, or this blog. After years of telling myself I’m not a good enough writer, here I am – writing! Which is ALL. IT. TAKES. TO. BE. A. WRITER. That was something I learned in 2018.
This year I made some wonderful new friends and lost people I care about. I rediscovered old interests while some hobbies fell by the wayside. In short, I lived life this year. So many experiences squeezed into 365 short days, which will inform how I face whatever 2019 has in store.
I hope that in the new year I will treat myself and others with kindness, I will do more of what makes me happy, and I will be the best version of myself that I’ve been so far.
See you in 2019!